Updated: Sep 5, 2018
In John Maxwell's book, Everybody Communicates Few Connects he mentions three ways one can connect with someone on a personal level. 1. When you are speaking to someone ask them to share with you something about themselves. This is not a time to highlight your accomplishments. This is about them and not about you. 2. Share with them something inspirational. This can be an inspirational quote, bible verse, or something motivational. 3. Ask them if there is anything you can do to add value to them and make sure you follow through.
About two years ago I had the honor of implementing the lessons I learned from John in his book. I had visited a husband and a wife who was on my staff at the church where I was pastoring. While at their house sitting down on their lovely sofa in their living room I ask them questions about themselves, and how came to choose the profession they had chosen. The look on their faces said it all as they proudly shared with me their life's journey. I then shared an inspirational quote with them and why that was inspirational to me. Finally, I ask the all-important question, "What can I do to add value to you?" They looked at me with awe and amazement. The husband spoke and said, "Let us get back with you for we have never had that question ask to us before." I thank them for a great night, and then I left. About a week after the visit as I was leaving the church the husband came looking for me. When he found me, he said, "Remember the question you ask my wife and me about adding value my wife and I were wondering what could we do for you to add value to you?" When you connect with people on a personal level making it about them, they, in turn, will make it about you. "Happy Connecting!"